The Energy of Us is the Energy of Them

Children are reflections.
Not just of our features or funny quirks—
but of our energy.
Our frequency.
Our internal home.

They don’t just mimic our words,
They absorb our essence.

When there is chaos in us, there is chaos in them.
When there is softness, peace, and presence within us, they breathe it in like fresh air.

They are not separate from us. They are us.
Unfiltered. Unmasked. Unapologetically tuned in to the truth we may try to hide.

We are walking blueprints.
And our children? They are the living responses.

Yet still—we blame them.
We blame the screens, the school systems, the world outside our doors.
We say “kids today are different,” and “it’s just the culture we live in now.”

But the truth is far harder to hold:
We blame everything but ourselves.

We forget that the world our children are growing up in is the world we co-created.
The noise, the disconnection, the overstimulation, the chronic busyness…
It didn’t start with them.
It began with us.

With generations of adults who were never shown how to tend to their own inner home.
Who were taught to suppress, to perform, to numb, to keep going—no matter the cost.

And now, our children live in the emotional aftermath.

The truth is, the state of our children is a mirror of the state of our souls.
Our homes.
Our nervous systems.
Our values.
Our energy.

We search endlessly for external solutions—parenting methods, behavior charts, expert advice—but as I continue to dig deeper, I see it clearly:

The answers are not out there.
They are in the unseen.
In the energy we carry.
In the spaces we refuse to enter.

The energy doesn't lie.

You can say all the right things, follow all the right scripts, check every box—
But if your inner home is misaligned, if your nervous system is living in survival, if your presence is scattered and disconnected…

Your child will know.
Not because they are "too sensitive" or "acting out"—
But because they are wise.
Tuned in.
Responding to the frequency you didn’t know you were broadcasting.

So when we see dysregulation, disconnection, or defiance—
Instead of tightening the rules or blaming the child,
we must be brave enough to ask:

What part of me is calling out for attention, too?
What needs tending in my own nervous system?
What is my inner home truly feeling like to live in—and how does that ripple outward?

This isn’t about shame or blame.
This is an invitation.
To come home.
To become the steady ground we wish for our children to stand on.
To stop outsourcing wholeness to systems and start embodying the energy we want our children to grow up in.

Because the world doesn’t change when our kids start “behaving.”
The world changes when we awaken.

The energy of us
is the energy of them.

So let us tend to the garden within.
Let us clear the noise, soften the soil, water what’s been long forgotten.
Because when we do—
our children finally have space to bloom.

And so do we.